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It's so SAD
« on: January 16, 2020, 12:16:27 PM »
I know that each winter I get into this dark place. I know I can blame it on external forces at the time, but if I really look over the course of events, there is nothing ever terribly dark.

I know it has been beautiful outside, I know I should have been going out there for walks in the limited sunshine. I know it is getting cold again. And I know I didn't do any of the shoulds I should have.

When life is heavy, it is hard to move. Doing what I feel I "have" to do is all I can manage.

And yet, each year, this eventually fades. I'm looking forward to it.
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Re: It's so SAD
« Reply #1 on: January 16, 2020, 12:58:57 PM »
You're not alone.  February usually gets to me more than any other month.

Let's face it, if we were the right sort of animal we'd be hibernating.  But we're not.  Sometimes just grinding out the stuff which 'has to be done' is enough to get by until the gloom lifts.

Yesterday I still had half my shopping to do, but I saw a bus for home, just about to leave.  The call of home was stronger than the need to buy supplies, so I broke into a brief sprint, half-filled rucksack banging against me.

Back at home, like a bear that's been woken too early I'm messing around tidying my cave until I can settle down again.

If you really don't feel like walking or going out socialising then wrap up, sit outside, and read.  That way you'll still get the fresh air, get a bit more oxygen circulating around in your blood.

Plus, in your case, you're dealing with a grieving spouse.  Sadness is contagious.  Never underestimate this.

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Re: It's so SAD
« Reply #2 on: January 16, 2020, 02:47:09 PM »
With me it's November.  It has nothing to recommend it.  You go from what can be, in a good year, a pleasant autumn straight into a grey, cold, windy, drizzly winter.  And there's no upside to it.  December has Christmas.  January has the New Year.  By February, you can (here in the northern hemisphere) really see the days starting to lengthen, and somewhere in March you're into early spring.  But November?  I can't wait to see the back of it every year.

The only good thing about it is that it comes and goes early in the winter, so after that feels like going downhill all the way.

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Re: It's so SAD
« Reply #3 on: January 16, 2020, 05:03:24 PM »
November is not too bad for me: 3 family birthdays including mine on Guy Fawkes night. However, I too am depressed by the lack of sunshine here at 53 degrees north. If it wasn't for waiting for my hernia repair op disaster to be repaired I would've been off to the Med for a couple of weeks at least.

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Re: It's so SAD
« Reply #4 on: January 18, 2020, 03:03:01 AM »
There isn't a particular month for me but certain times and smells or flashbacks can pull me in.
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Re: It's so SAD
« Reply #5 on: January 18, 2020, 12:22:15 PM »
I hate to say this, but I can be sure I am not grieving at the moment. I do from time to time, resent the fact that my aunts are still alive, my MIL lived to her late 90s, and my own useful, wonderful mother did not. I may be grieving my own mother's death 15 years ago in a new way.

But I tend to do this year after year after year, so it is more likely something else. It usually starts with a small annoyance that I can brush off in better times and then devolves into a state of rabid ennui.
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Re: It's so SAD
« Reply #6 on: January 18, 2020, 07:17:01 PM »
February is usually the month that gets me.

I love when the holiday season begins in November. We have a Christmas tree and all that nostalgic stuff. The cold during those months doesn't bother me.

January usually isn't too bad because it's the new year. I try to re-group and build optimism for year to come. The cold during this month actually plays into my plans of spending a lot of time just sitting back and reflecting. For some reason it feels less lazy when it's cold and gloomy outside.

February rolls in and I find myself looking forward to Spring and getting back in the swing of things.  I've always said for it to be the shortest month of the year, it seems to be the longest.  By this time of the year, the gray sky and lack of sunshine does start taking a toll.



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Re: It's so SAD
« Reply #7 on: January 19, 2020, 12:12:50 AM »
I managed to make myself get to the grocery store today. I need a couple things to make dinner $90 of groceries so I won't have to go back for a while.
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